Returning to work: Please don’t make Interviews a humiliating experience for us

Few weeks back I astonishingly received an interview call and that too from a bigwig conglomerate; needless to say that call accelerated me to the seventh heaven right there! Afterall if you are getting an interview call after a three years gap, that itself feels like a mountainous achievement.

I was in the middle of my regular Mom’s duty when I got this call. So while my 4 years old daughter was pushing me behind to solve puzzles with her, my younger one wanted to be carried away. Within seconds I put the phone on mute, and gestured my helper to watch the kids while I rushed inside the bedroom and closed the door behind. See that might not be a big deal for anyone to just take a call but as a mother we have plethora of such big-little matters to handle!

So I had a brief discussion about the role however JD hadn’t been mailed to me yet, nevertheless the basic responsibilities sounded familiar. I felt a strong gush from within about this opportunity and even though it was just an initial discussion, I already looped myself as if part of this organisation already.

I immediately texted my hubby regarding this call and when he came back from the office, I had my sets of questions ready- how are we going to manage with our kids? Ofcourse he was equally excited as much I was and that entire evening fully went into solving our futuristic situations like finalizing an appropriate daycare near to our place, informing the parents to check their readiness to stay with us, and even shortlisting a suitable car to save the commute!

My in-person interview was scheduled the very next day, morning 10 am and I couldn’t say no; I knew I didn’t have any choice. I managed to reach the office on time, suitably dressed and wearing my confidence at best; facing the office life after a gap of three years wasn’t easy neither that was too alienist as the interviewers probably assume about us. But that was not the point of worry here, afterall they well knew about my career back and responsibility of my two kids. As I drove in my hubby’s car to the office and reached the security gate, I felt a sudden gush inside me as if I had already began my job. Nevertheless the office surroundings were quite alluring and as I ventured ahead in the building, it was quite tough to hold back my patience. I was told to reach on time and I didn’t want anyone to leave any bad impression, I might not be working currently but over the years I have evolved in multi-tasking and time management!

But do you know what happened next?

·        I had to wait for more than 40 minutes before my Interview began, I doubt there were really serious about my candidature!

·        The interviewers (a team of 2) were shocked to know that I had got two little kids; they were prepared for only one!

·        They even didn’t share the JD with me; it was more like anonymous set of responsibilities in the air!

·        Though I tried to maintain my poise and confidence at best, their facial expressions were clearly an indication of how I won’t be a resourceful to them, despite that they grilled me for approx. 30-45 minutes.

·        They didn’t clear me about the position, salary, hierarchy that they were looking for!

·        They replied that they will revert me back in a week but they didn’t mail me for another 2 weeks until I wrote a note to them.

I agree here that I might not be the right candidate for the job, it’s okay but what’s not okay is the experience that they give to people like us, ‘hopeful to return back to the work’. But instead this is the reality check we have- we are useless, casual, fillers and not needed for any serious work!

If you have already assumed that how I’m going to manage with two kids then probably you have already wrapped up the interview in your mind; with your mind shut closed and then you can’t see anything beyond your short-sightedness;leave alone the commitment I already have built for your organization!

Obviously people like us need training, relearning but then how doesn’t need an on-the job-training?

Atleast be hopeful to give us probation time or else don’t claim about diversity and inclusiveness. Of course you can’t have a female workforce without a family or have you assumed again that they are the only ones who can have work challenges, well problems can arise with anyone!

Mail that I had sent them yesterday after a complete no-show from them. They haven't reverted me back yet!

Or the interviewers sat with a shorter vision: 2 kids means double trouble, double sickness, double excuses, double leaves and double loss of productivity!

What employers never want to realize is that when women like us come out of our houses, we have to leave our whole family behind, we have a bigger responsibility to shape and sharpen their (kid’s ) future as well, but at the same time we have some ignition left in our hearts about our own long-forgotten career and the fake hope that you give us albeit could support us to re-built our castle of success.

And though they might have read the mail that I sent to them yesterday, I pretty know that either it might have straightway gone to their trash or another piece of laugh about a frustrated Mommy-at-home!

And do you know what’s the second most annoying questions you asked despite of your academic excellence- what’s your salary expectations? Why you forget that big companies already have a designated band structure and salary range imbibed and we simply deserve the pay that’s tagged along that position; we need don’t charities to fund our kid’s playdates!

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8 thoughts on “Returning to work: Please don’t make Interviews a humiliating experience for us

    1. thank you, I agree with you the period of preparation was too short but on the other hand they want us to be readily available and when it comes to them, they don’t have a courtesy to even send me a feedback note

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  1. Hey Arti,

    I couldn’t stop myself sharing this blog on my social handles. You have written so true and an agony fact of these interviews sessions. I do not understand why these companies do not entertain a lady with some career breaks!

    And yes, the question about the salary expectation is just a matter of rejection formality. That’s it. Even I am so frustrated with these kinds of interviewers.


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