Zubaan- Express how you really feel

Hola friends , so today our 2019 #blogchattera2z challenge has come to an end. As I started my this year’s challenge with theme ‘love and relationships’, I would like to conclude my entries with the last letter ‘Z’ as ‘Zubaan’. Yes ‘Zubaan’ to express our feelings. Expressing our love can make a huge shift in our lives, in the past three decades I have seen many cases where just a few miss of words resulted in a lifelong isolation and deprivation of the happiness that one truly deserved!

Expressing your heartfelt emotions is very important, and this is the biggest lesson I have learnt as a Mother. My kids, they always express their feelings and never keep things in their heart. In the morning or before sleep; without worrying about the time and situation they will cuddle me and tell me how much they love me and this is the most divine feeling in the world. Yes to know that someone loves you can be a life-changing experience; it also persuades you to work more towards your relationship and be better everyday. And not only this my kids tell me instantly if they don’t like my behavior or felt hurt or left-aside by any of my action; so that actually helps me to improve!

So when was the last time you called your Parents or siblings and told them how much you love and miss them; do you hesitate to even call them? Or most of the time we feel it’s a childish thing to do! Well it’s not, telling someone that you love is never a childish thing and even if it is; does that make it anyhow inferior?

As cliche as it may sound, but these days though we share a common bed with our partner; we felt distant apart. Even if we have hundred friends on Facebook; we miss our 2 am friend. Even if we have thousands followers on the Instagram; we feel deep shallow in our lives. Why? Because we don’t really talk to the one we should and we rather waste our energies in the redundant technologies to deviate our minds and at last time when we resort to our-self we discover how lonely we are! So don’t hesitate to speak up and share your thoughts, even if you are angry or hurt; don’t keep your feelings to yourself.

When I became a first time mother, I experienced lot of changes in my life, my body had undergone tremendous changes, I wasn’t working anymore and there were deep sense of being leftout or degraded and even I felt I wasn’t prepared for the new responsibilities ( somewhere I was scared too). But I couldn’t share these things to anyone, or people would believe me as a selfish, ambitious, cold-heart, weak and what not! And this took a toll on my mental as emotional health, and honestly there were many matters that even my partner couldn’t understand at that time; and I can’t really blame him! So I chose social-media as my Zubaan and spread out my words through writing for a popular parenting website and to my amusement; women connected with me instantly. Ofcourse my writing skills weren’t proficient but they could connect with my emotions and I realized I wasn’t the only one suffering; slowly I got the confidence. I even went ahead and met many fellow Mothers during such events where we could connect, share and learn from each other’s lives.

And if you are still oscillating between your thoughts and words; write!! Yes writing can be one of the best way to express yourself when everything fails out. Almost a decade back when I fell in love, I wanted to share my feelings to someone. Mine was a long-distance relationship and unbeknownst to my family; moreover I wasn’t comfortable sharing a ‘deeper-me’ with anyone so I chose the medium of writing to express and made a secret friend. And this friend helped me sail my journey and even helped at times when I needed someone most!

Quite a school thing na? Yes so that’s the whole point, we have been enough of adulting so it’s the time to rejuvenate our inner child and speak our feelings out! Remember by keeping vocal in your relationship, we are working to always give our life a chance. So open your heart and express, ‘ Bol de dil ki zubaan‘…..

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Did you liked this post or have any suggestions to make? Please feel free to review, also this blog is part of the #a2zblogchatter challenge in the alphabetic series for ‘Z’.

To read the previous blog, click here:

https://mydailycupoflife.com/2019/04/29/yunhi-kat-jaega-safar-sath-chalne-se-staying-happy-ever-after/

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Image source:
https://source.colostate.edu/whats-love-language-expressing-love-way-partner-will-appreciate/

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Today I have started to live a new life. Today I aim to look beyond what's apparent and wish to explore a new world. Today I feel like to dive into an ocean of thoughts. Today I have realized that there was there was never any yesterday for me, its been always today!! My world encircles around my baby, biggy-baby (i.e my hubby) and my thoughts. Whether I'm free or occupied with stuff, I always think, dream about my thoughts, feelings and enjoy when my words gain visibility. I'm not any writer but recently I have fallen in love with writing and since then, this love is gaining momentum with every moment!! You can also read my blogs at : http://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/droplets-of-thoughts-of-a-mum-wife-woman-and-much-more http://sweetberriesoflife.blogspot.in/

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