It was very hot day and my lethargy levels were on peak but afternoon is the only free time I usually have. After feeding my younger one I had exactly an hour to visit the parlor before I rushed to pick up my elder child from the bus stop. I looked at my watch atleast 5 times in the middle of the service, the assignment staff pitied about my life as a mother of two is a real mess and challenging.
‘I’m so lucky as compared to you that I don’t have to worry about managing anyone, not even my meals. I get everything on my hand so till the time I’m not married and have kids, life is so relaxed’
I couldn’t agree more. Till few years back my life was quite similar to her. I used to get up at 8 or 9, and while going out of the house my Mom would always chase for a glass of milk or a bite of ‘parantha’. Those were the carefree days, no worrying about cleaning poo, changing diapers, feeding at wee hours or churning infinite bedtime stories.
Yes that sounds strange but there comes a point in everyone’s life when we had to start our own journeys with the label of a ‘family’. When I got married, that was already an onset of detachment from my previous ties but honestly things touched the ground reality when we became Parents; it felt as if the world changed overnight for both of us. And with leaps and bounds I have realized though the term ‘Family’ looks so easy to speak and pronounce, it’s very difficult to live up every day!
I will tell you a very personal account here, one day we (Husband and I) had an dis-agreement and I couldn’t hold back my emotions; I burst out. Though my daughter was in deep-sleep but the next day when I asked her about the dreams she saw yesterday, she told that she saw me crying! I felt very bad about the impressions our minor action have on our three year old daughter. For us as an adult it can be a minor thing but for our kids; it can be a game changer for life. So in a family team work is very important. Needless to say we immediately corrected ourselves!
Then there is another incident, last week we left our kids with our Nanny and sneaked out for some ‘couple-time’. In our absence the kids had home food as well bites of junk food to settle down without us and even we let them watch TV for a little longer. Perhaps they are quite young to understand that their Mom-Dad needed some air together but as they will grow up, they will surely understand and value the fact that a couple engagements is equally important in the Family. That implies that in family every relationship holds a distinguishable importance and we need to value that!
We even understand that the Family is a strong term, it can be a one parent family or a two parent family and it can even be a pet family without any kids. Also,
- One person can’t control the entire family; every member is equally important and responsible. Gone are the days when father or grandfather used to be the ‘mukhiya’ (head) of the family.
- Contribution by every member but in a collaborative effort. It’s wise not to pin-point husband or wife or even the kids because life has become complex that there might be some backlog hindering the member’s progress and we might not be aware about it.
- Rules are important; for everyone. There should be provision for family meals, no-phone policy in the bedroom, junk food only once in a week kind of rules; because no family can’t progress with an obscure approach!
- Raising kids not to become doctor or engineer but as a valued human being with highest sense of empathy. Even then if they become doctor or engineer, that’s not a bad thing either.
So present life is awesome and I feel proud to refer myself as ‘WE’. I just don’t remember the way my Mom used to take care of me but as I used to dress up and go for work, I would always turn back to show up to my Mum with a broad smile and confidence. And she would smile at me in return with few kisses in the air and would also guide me if anything went wrong with my dress of if anything got missing, and I would rush inside the house to immediately rectify my flaws. Yes my Mom was always there to check and guide me about my flaws and compliment me about my accolades. This is the opportunity that the almighty has given me now, to compliment and guide someone; my kids! So no matter my sleeping hours have drastically shrunk and my life revolves around my two munchies; life is good.
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