There Is Nothing Paranoid About Turning 30

The other day I was speaking to my husband about my fitness plans, “Once April will hit in, I’m going to start the gym”.

“Why starting April, is your world going to change starting then”?

He is absolutely right! But then we all like to set our clocks as if some specific time is set for everything. Same is the notion we all have about hitting our 30s. Age is just a number, we have heard this before but deep in our hearts as the time tickles towards 30; we all feel that drift. Life is going to change post 30, we all think about that. And that’s the reason if you search on the Google there are endless posts about ‘Do this and that before your turn 30’ and so on, right?? But as I’m already sailing in the 30s boat for some time now, my life has felt no GAGA about the 3rd decade of my life, so why is this uproar? 

Because in our society we (especially women) are conditioned in a way that before we turn 30, we should complete our education, start earning, get married and have atleast one kid by 30, post that there is nothing substantial to do but to behave aged and matured. And this feeling totally sucks! Like everyone I too felt proud and boast when I was in my 20s but once I watched an American fantasy romantic comedy film ‘13 Going on 30’; that movie completely changed my perspective towards life.

There is everything you can do being a 30 year old woman, you still can be flirtatious, single, switch careers, accept your mistakes, go back to your parent’s house, cry and sleep by their side, make new friends, prove yourself and start your life again; no stopping!!’

Sadly we don’t think like that, even in the 21st century our priority remains to finish our checklist and mark ourself as an achiever or loser before we turn 30!

And I hate this entire thought process because it hinders our capabilities to think beyond our age! A time where we can be more than what we are at present, we waste our time falling for Anti-aging treatments, feeling dejected for being single or shaming our self for an empty womb! Fearful with our scenarios, we never dare to think that we still can do a lot more in our life. Somewhere I also felt this pressure, I was happy being married at 26 and giving birth to my first child before I turn 30. But I’m also unemployed for more than 3 years now while my friends have reached substantial ladders and are earning striking pay packages. I’m also lagging behind in fitness and managing my ‘L size’ with tummy tuckers. I have hardly traveled leave alone my wish to do a ‘solo-trip’. And my lost dream of learning Bharatnatyam, it could fulfill it!

So maybe I have won the race of motherhood here but what about judging parameters when it comes to jobs, promotions, money, fitness and travel? Is 30 an end to my dreams?

What I mean to imply that society will continue to speak as per their old bogus rituals but I still can do the best as per my current scenario. Not only dipping my head about anti-aging regime and coloring my crown; I can do a lot because age is just a number!

“It’s sad but it’s true that society says her life is already over, there’s nothing to do and there’s nothing to say.”

So ladies if you are still perplexed about what it is about turning 30, then

Turning 30 is not a big deal

You can still kick your boring job

Your 30s aren’t meant for a dump-spot

You can enroll for a master class

And switch your career with sass

Turning 30 isn’t a big deal

It’s part of a big movie’s reel

You can be single and yes a proud ‘spinster’

To prove your worth, you don’t need a ‘Mister’

You can enjoy your shots in the famous bar

You don’t need Men to save you in any ugly hour!

Turning 30 isn’t a big deal

It’s all about your never-ending zeal

You can be a mother and entrepreneur

Or you can be like nothing above but be happy

You don’t need norms to fit in the society

Just be yourself, don’t live to change someone’s nappy

Turning 30 isn’t a big deal

Just save yourself from turning unhappy

You can follow your passion and still fail

It’s not the time to cry, sob out and wail

It’s one life with endless dreams

Not one dream and endless screams

Turning 30 isn’t a big deal

It’s just one plus 29 don’t give it much heed!

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Today I have started to live a new life. Today I aim to look beyond what's apparent and wish to explore a new world. Today I feel like to dive into an ocean of thoughts. Today I have realized that there was there was never any yesterday for me, its been always today!! My world encircles around my baby, biggy-baby (i.e my hubby) and my thoughts. Whether I'm free or occupied with stuff, I always think, dream about my thoughts, feelings and enjoy when my words gain visibility. I'm not any writer but recently I have fallen in love with writing and since then, this love is gaining momentum with every moment!! You can also read my blogs at : http://www.mycity4kids.com/parenting/droplets-of-thoughts-of-a-mum-wife-woman-and-much-more http://sweetberriesoflife.blogspot.in/

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