Even before the birth of my first child, I knew that I will have to take a break from my career. And I was mentally prepared for it because that was my decision; not enforced by anyone. As the months of motherhood progressed, my work recognitions and achievements took a backseat not only on the papers but also in the eyes of people around me. “You are a mother and this is the best job”; “Raising a good child should be the foremost goal of any woman”; and so on…
Though these judgments hardly bother me but when I see the general cloud of tagging what a woman should do and shouldn’t; this really annoys me. It’s hard time for every family and the society as a whole to realize that there is a difference between “Dominance” and “Direction”. You can guide or offer directions to someone but don’t dominate a woman’s life; she is more than a Mum.
I have worked in corporate as a Human Resource Professional for more than 7 years and they have been the wonderful years of my life. As a SAHM, motherhood gave me some time to ponder what else I can do in my life if I don’t have the readiness or the opportunity to resume my career. And often my thoughts take me back to my childhood memories when as a child I always felt proud about myself as a stage performer; yes I loved to dance always. But because of the study pressure and an onus to become something in life; I had to let go my dreams; and seriously I never ever realized that it can be a career too.
Later I also enrolled for professional dance course but things couldn’t work out, firstly there had been colossal work commitments and mainly as I didn’t took my passion seriously.
Nevertheless things like any other routine tale and I got married and today with 2 years of being on sabbatical; I have hardly any time to think about anything but my 2.5 year old little girl and of course my second pregnancy…Passions, desire, dreams all lost somewhere.. Who Am I?
People happily label me ‘just a Mom‘.
But thankfully, where there is a will; there is a way…
Few years back, I started my blogging website and began to write few of my thoughts but like ‘a job not taken seriously’. Yes, honestly I didn’t realize the importance of my writing till I became a mother… And that actually emerged as my “Not-Just-Being-A-Mom Moment”.
I will tell you why. Well, before being a Mom people happily called me as a bright scholar, successful professional and so on but as I became a mother I got automatically tagged only as a ‘Mom’ irrespective of what I did in the past…And before these things could hurt me; I began to write about my experiences. As I wrote more; viewers too began to read my thoughts and I realized that many Moms could actually resonate with my life; and that means we as Mum actually live parallel lives and there is so much to learn and imbibe from each other’s life.
So this new journey actually helped me in finding my own directions and exploring what I’m actually good at… You don’t need to be a successful entrepreneur, accomplished writer or dancer , working professional or do something extraordinary to prove your worth apart from being a Mom; it’s about being happy and content in your own self..
And I must admit post the birth of my daughter I may not have earned major chunk of money but yes bunch of proud moments for myself:
- I completed my first 10km run
- And within 2 months, my first half-marathon.
- I turned into an active blogger and thankfully have gained positive recognition from the fellow Mums around.
- Bought my own web domain for constructive blogging.
- Became physically active and resumed my yoga chronicles
Only small things can shape up big discoveries in your life.
For many, above things may not be of high virtue but ask any Mom who is still trying to find 10 minutes for herself amidst the busy motherly life. With the second child on way, I believe I’m already good at my place. May be in few months from now when things will be more settled, I may begin to work again:)
I have realized that motherhood is not the last stop in your life but it’s the commencement of splendid beginings in the life but only if someone really wants to. And it doesn’t matter what step you take; what’s important is that you have the WILL to take an extra step.